Memories Aren’t Made on the Highway

Sun, Sep 5, 2010

Influence, Perspective

Memories Aren’t Made on the Highway

There’s an aspect of life that I’ve come to be reminded of over the last few days. It’s about memories and the choice we have in making them. Making them for ourselves and making them for others.

Every day we have a choice in what we do and how we do it. Those choices impact others around us and the memories they take away. Those memories can be positive or negative and in most cases we have the ability to influence which they will be.

To do that we have to be intentional about the memories we want to create.

But here’s the deal… we can’t if we’re moving so fast that we fail to recognize or take advantage of the opportunities along the way.

Let’s all get real honest with each other for a second. Life moves extremely fast and most of us are in some kind of hurry overload. We’re fixated on outcomes, consumed with being first, getting there fastest, accomplishing more and more, etc, etc… sound familiar? Maybe it’s just me.

The desire to achieve, in and of itself, is not the problem. It’s when the focus gets out of balance. It’s when the hurry blinds our ability to see as much value in the journey as in the destination.

While on a recent road trip with my family we set out on the highway for a 16+ hour drive. Faster speeds, no red lights, and straighter lines from point A to point B helped to bypass anything that might slow us down. As we continued to push through and “make good time” I realized that our desire to get there fast was robbing us from making memories along the way. I looked over at my wife and said, “Memories are not made on the highway.” At that point we started looking for memories to make.

You see, I don’t want my kids growing up thinking that it’s all about getting there fastest. I want them to learn to enjoy the ride and see the value in between the dots on the map. I want them to understand about being intentional and choosing to make life what you want to make of it. About the differences between being proactive and reactive.

That spontaneous decision my wife and I made did slow us down. It tacked on another few hours to our trip but it also turned out to be one of the best decisions we made. Not only did we get a needed break from the road but we also found a really neat state park (Cloud Canyon) with a beautiful hiking trail with 600+ steps down to the bottom of two waterfalls. The scenery was outstanding. Not only that but as we entered the park we were also greeted by a mother deer and two babies at the edge of the road (a sight my two girls were amazed to see). The memories that we created were well worth slowing down and the time that we invested (not lost along the way).

My point is this…

Don’t be in such a hurry that you miss out on memories to create. Be intentional about it. Memories shape the future. They matter, especially for those who you are making them for.

Are you willing to make the choice to be a Memory Maker? Share your comments here.


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      I totally agree.
      In all my history of travel, the best experiences have always been in the unplanned bits of the trip.
      Now when travelling with 2 young kids we often take the long route, and invariably find much richer experiences.

      The question is, where, if and how can this principle be applied to professional life?

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