Sometimes we limit ourselves, don’t we?
I mean, we can be our own worst enemy and not even realize it.
There’s something we want to do or pursue but we don’t. Instead we make excuses or justify to ourselves (and others) why we can’t.
Sometimes the lie we tell ourselves even makes sense (because the lie is how our brain avoids the risk). The lie is often logical and safe but in reality… it’s just self sabotage and stops us from becoming who we could be.
Sabotage that is really the result of fear. A fear that you can’t overcome unless you recognize that it exists. It hides behind the lies so you first have to start with a good, honest look at yourself and the things you aren’t doing and why. Then you have to look that fear in the face and stop letting it sabotage your life.
But what are we afraid of? Why don’t we just go for it? Why make excuses? Why over complicate or over analyze to the point of perpetual procrastination, inactivity, or paralysis? Is it the fear of failure or the fear of success that scares us the most?
This passage by Marianne Williamson, quoted by Nelson Mandela says it well:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
I don’t know about you but for me 2011 is going to be a year where I work to overcome the areas of my life that I tend to self sabotage… and I hope as I do, I can liberate a few others along the way.
Maybe you’ll do the same.